By Carolyne Nakazibwe
I watched an interesting clip from Pastor Henry Minani, whose teachings I generally enjoy because of the amount of humour and relatable analogy he injects into his messages.
In the latest I saw off TikTok, he was addressing a recent Next Level conference, talking about how pastors’ wives emotionally and sexually blackmail their husbands, just because they are clergymen. It is a hilarious sermon; if you can, look it up.
But to summarise, he wonders why born-again women are rude, stingy when it comes to sex and unbothered when it comes to their appearance at home.
“We have pastors who are crying… wives of pastors, you are killing men of God because you are so rude, so stubborn, you are like competitors. For us, we married girlfriends, we didn’t marry policewomen,” he preached, reminding the women that just because they are married to pastors, it does not necessarily make them pastors. That the men of God sometimes really miss the girlfriends they married.
“You last showed us love some many years [ago]; we don’t remember. When we touch you, you are refusing; we want to carry you, you are refusing!”
He reminded them of the days they used to make their husbands juice and pamper them… From the way the crowd was roaring in approval, many Christian men were suffering in silence, and it was Minani who stepped up to bell the cat.
“Some of you are almost chasing us away because you dress like women of 90 years. Please, support our faith! Make us happy! We still want to play with you, even as we preach. I hear you don’t even want to hug your husbands; and the worst thing…let me say this – if children [run away], let them run – wives of pastors don’t kiss! We have wives who don’t sleep with their husbands. They say, what will you do? We are born-again; where will you go? Please don’t punish me! Show me your faith!”
If you were wondering about the increasing scandals related to sex that are cropping up in pastors’ households… there! Some people have simply reached their breaking points, and their spouses have caused them to stumble. Not to make excuses for bad, ungodly behaviour, but it is what it is.
Minani may have spoken for the men; it does not mean that the wives are faring any better in some of these born-again households, where a spouse’s faith and godly principles are held over his/her head unfairly as if daring them to crack. Many do.
Look, your spouse being on fire for God, but also having a healthy libido does not make him/her promiscuous or a sinner; that is partly why they married you. To have all the sex they want within the sanctity of a marriage.
It reminded me of a man who wrote to me years ago, saying he was on the verge of throwing in the towel, because his pastor-cum-wife was denying him sex, using her vocation and preoccupation with God as an excuse.
He said he had even grown to resent the whole notion of being born-again, because of how his wife starved him. Every few months, I think about him and pray that they sorted that out. Going back to Pastor Minani’s ‘rant’, why exactly do people get married?
Why does one leave one’s parent’s home, to set up a home with another, if one’s intention is to keep on living the single life in a double bed?
Because – think about it – of all the things you currently do with your spouse, what couldn’t you have accomplished while staying in your father’s house, apart from making love and procreating?
Why then are you treating your marriage like you came for a sleepover or slumber party?
Why are you holding your spouse to selfish standards of eating only when you feel like eating, and everyone starving whenever you lose your appetite?
The repercussions are a matter of when, not if, regardless of the level of anointing on your spouse’s life.
Story Credit: caronakazibwe@gmail.com Via The Observer
